Everyone used to be a bludger!
Remember the time, der reader, when everyone used to be a bludger? For those not au fait with Aussie slang, a bludger is a lazy, shiftless, good-for-nothing. Idly lazing about letting things look after themselves?
No? You don’t remember that time?
Me either. As long as I can recall people have worked for the things they wanted, raised kids, paid bills, saved as best as they could, and generally did whatever it took to try and make life as comfortable as possible.
Sure there were always exceptions but the vast majority of people have always done an honest days work for an honest days pay, plus some.
So, if life has always been busy, why is it that these days, with all the mind-blowing technological advances, meant to make life easier, busy lives have become hectic lives?
Ask almost anyone and they will tell you that it is important to have time alone. Time to just relax and let the mind roam. And I’m not talking about spiritualists or the religious folks. I am talking about literally anyone. So it isn’t about ignorance.
It isn’t about education or the socioeconomic status either. I remember during my time in the corporate environment. You’d get busy executives spending very few days at home with partners and kids. What with the travel, endless meetings everyone claims to hate but never does anything to reduce the number of, and responsibilities that necessitate inordinate office time? What’s a person to do?
Here’s the funny thing though. Many of these executives, upon changing roles or leaving the jobs with heavy travel schedules get divorced a short while later.
What is it than?
What is it that drives humans to not only repeat the same patterns, over and over but to in fact exacerbate pains and miseries?
There are several reasons for this continued going in circles like the proverbial mouse on the proverbial wheel.
Think of the last time you were in noisy room. At a party or something like that. When you couldn’t, “hear yourself think.”
How does one get away form such a situation? The noise? How does one extract oneself?
The answer is twofold, and simple. Firstly one decides to get out of there. Secondly, one gets up and leaves.
Likewise with the wheel of undesired life patterns. And it is a wheel. Look at it. What happens when they find a cure for a deadly disease? They look under their microscope and identify three different ones. It never ends. It never ends because you are still on the wheel. Get off the wheel. Get off the wheel and let it go on spinning without you.
How to jump off the wheel though? It can’t be that simple … just decide and get off!
Yes it is that easy. That’s the first step, decide. It’s that easy. The hard part is wanting to.
Once the decision to get off has been made the second is even simpler. You get off. You make changes that will allow for self time. One on one with a loved one time. And things that we do together time; things that make us happy as a unit, time.
Here’s the potential fly in the ointment. Do you really want to spend time with whom ever it is you’re meant to?
If the heartfelt answer is no. Don’t use the old “I’m so busy.” Make the changes. Find someone who will make you rush home, not stay away.
It’ll be better for all concerned.