When I was working as a business consultant, I worked with a business owner who had no filter on his emotional valve. For this man emotional outbursts were as common as breathing. It was disconcerting to start but boring, and painful to witness in the end.
While emotional outbursts are common, some would say too common, and suppressing them is an unhealthy practice, not remedying them is at the end of the day, as they say, tragic. And if verbal outbursts result in physical violence … forget about it. Inexcusable.
Also, it should not be confused— letting people know how you feel, unequivocally and plainly, or exhibiting displeasure is not the same as going berserk because a guy or girl chooses that as the first option time after time.
It also needs to be understood that not all issues can be solved solely by way of spirituality. There are times and conditions when health professionals need to be consulted. Doing so does not make anyone any less spiritual.
That said, there is a little exercise that helps with the rectification of emotional outbursts.
The first thing to do is not to run from, and suppress emotional issues / outbursts. That does not work. All suppressing does is drive the issue beneath the surface where it festers and bubbles away until next time.
The idea therefore is to confront it. Not in a combative way, war doesn’t work either. If it did there would only ever have been the one. When I say confront I mean dive into the emotion, feel it, look at it from every angle; what brought it on? What were the warning signals? What triggers did you feel at work before the eruption? Has it happened before under similar circumstances?
Sometimes it may even be a good idea to sit down with a pen and paper and write it all down.
Picture the incident in your mind. Put yourself back into the situation, see it, feel it, be there. Now, write about what you see and feel, in detail.
Whilst doing the exercise let the mind wander. Do not justify or rationalize. Remember the object of the exercise: to determine the truth behind your emotional outbursts. You do not know that truth. If you knew the truth there would be no problem.
Write down whatever comes up. List it all down. Do not disregard the so-called small stuff, likewise do not exemplify or dwell on the supposedly big stuff. Your major task is to record the thoughts that present themselves.
Very often within a small thing rests the answer, and within the seemingly big thing only lays the question.
Give yourself between 30 and 45 minutes to complete the exercise. Keep the pace brisk but comfortable. When finished, have a nice stretch and resume your daily business.