More than once I have said that we don’t communicate with words; that words are meaningless and at best nebulous and ambiguous.
As I believe those comments to be true and accurate I stand by them.
Where does that leave quotes like this then: The words you speak become the house you live in. by the Persian poet, Hafez, who is not known for making frivolous statements.
Well, I agree with Hafez. The man spoke the truth.
Here is what I mean.
Words are ego’s way of communicating. And since ego is but a made-up idea, an illusion, its system of communication cannot be anything but, also.
Nothing real happens in a dream, including words.
Things go deeper than that with ego communication. Words are in fact designed to muddy communication. Most words have many meanings for instance. That in itself doesn’t make for clarity and ease of communication.
If ever you want to see the ambiguity of words, read something legal. Lawyers specialize in gobbledygook. They are however just a prime example, not the exception.
Ego survives on confusion and subterfuge. When the light of truth shines upon ego, it is seen that words are but a layer of pretention laid on by those fantasizing about an illusory world being real.
True communication happens behind the scenes, below the surface of words if you will.
Words do not convey meaning. Meaning is conveyed by the mood, the state, you are in when speaking them.
You’ve noticed it yourself I’m sure, when you’re laughing and having a happy conversation you can say things that under different circumstances would be taken entirely differently.
When you are angry, you can say a single word or two, Everything’s fine, for instance, and the listener just knows that everything is far from fine.
To that end when Hafez says, The words you speak become the house you live in, he means that the state you are in will dictate your words. If you are at peace your words will be soft, kind and peaceful.
Alternatively if you are in ego, your words will reflect that. As such, watching your words serves as witness to the type of mental house you live in; as well as your physical one for that matter. A peaceful and happy person will not be living in a household filled with tension, anxiety and stress. A successful person will not be saying negative things, and so forth.
The great Rumi puts it superbly when he says:
“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.”