There’s a girl on my mind
Yes, dear reader, this morning I woke with a girl on my mind. And as is the rule of this blog I will share the related thoughts with you. Just thinking tho it’ll be a morning to remember if I wake with mind churning out colorful and ribald thoughts. I bet y’all just hanging for that.
Man – Woman. Woman – Woman. Man – Man. Husband – Wife, or if you’re going to be politically correct, Partner – Partner, (just doesn’t have a ring to it, does it? But it means a lot to some, so there you go).
No matter the gender of the couple involved, one thing is exactly the same the moment you come across that particular someone, you change– your world changes. You change forever indeed because even if things don’t work out, you are never the same again.
That initial feeling in particular, is about as close to the ultimate freedom that is possible on this planet. The feeling of excitement, exhilaration and pure joy. The feeling of anything is possible. There is literally nothing like it.
We call it falling in love. It has been so since life began. I’m sure even our cousin the caveman wasn’t immune to it. Wouldn’t at all surprise he even used a smaller, gentler, rock to knock out that special one. Probably didn’t drag her by the hair but carried her to the cave, assuming his mates weren’t watching of course, you know what boys are like; gotta protect ya rep at all times.
But things change, don’t they? Things always get complicated. Interesting word; complicated, when applied to relationships. Complicated is even an official relationship status in certain circles.
So why does the initial feeling of splendor in the grass not last?
The falling in love part … we have nothing to do with. It just happens. There is no meddling, no planning, no scheming, no cajoling, no money, no nuttin baby, you just there, nowhere in particular and you catch a glance, a mile, a waft of perfume, a sentence that’s sweeter than any sound you ever did hear and SPLASH! You’re in.
You didn’t lift a finger. Didn’t have to RSVP, there was no invitation. No ready, set, go. No getting into the zone or psyching yourself up. Didn’t have to add water, stir, or anything. It just happened. Just like that. But boy do you feel it. Your entire body feels it. Your very soul feels it. Feels the vibration, the energy, the dynamism. It’s freedom, wildness, wonder and weirdness all wrapped into one delicious and glorious feeling. You are invincible. There is no problem cant be solved or just brushed away.
And then what happens? The meddling happens! People get scared. Doubt creeps in. Fear rips in. The negative self talk starts. The cliches come out.
There’s no such thing as perfection, don’t you know. The honeymoon has to end. Life wasn’t meant to be easy. Hard rain’s got to fall. Cold wind always comes. Nothing lasts forever. Hard times are a comin’. I love you but. Can you lose a little weight? That beer belly is getting a bit out of control sweetie. Is my ass getting bigger darlin’? Tell the truth now? Well dear, now that you mention it. Can’t have too much of a good thing. Things just aren’t the same. Look, it’s not you, it’s me, okay baby, but I just don’t feel the same any more. I didn’t really mean to cheat on you, really I didn’t, but … and all of a sudden the burning ring of desire becomes a garden of thorn and stone.
Life began on earth millions of years ago, human beings evolved into top dog position and yet in some things there’s still a long, long, way to the top.
Relationships like anything else can be used for enlightenment, or for continued dancing in the spiritual dark.
Relationships perse are not special or divine. The manner in, and the purpose for, which they are used is what makes all the difference. When two people join truly, they can together rise into the light. Their joining becomes a holy communion. Their sex becomes a divine experience. Their presence is felt by all.
Not that there’s anything wrong with a bit of slap and tickle by the way. As long as you enjoy, and love, and help one another rise above the helter-skelter of what ego calls life, you can’t go too far wrong.
Have a tantric experience y’all.