The Thought I Woke Up With #119

Individuality or Personality

Being an individual is a big thing with people and society. So big in fact that it’s almost an obsession. Everyone is an individual, just ask them. It’s a prize to clutch onto and behold. Look at me, look at me, how individual am I?

The ridiculous thing is, the more one tries to prove they are an individual, the more silly and ordinary they look.

Celebrities are the flag bearers when it comes to strutting their individuality. Have a look at them at award shows and red carpet events. Never was there a greater gaggle of sameness preceding to be individual.

These people wear the same, whatever happens to be in, ensembles, rock the same hair styles, share the same plastic surgeons, same botox, same silicon enhancements, same, I’m so bored, looks firmly plastered across their faces. They even say the same things, in the same way. Everything. Same. There are exceptions of course but these are few and far between.

Every now and then you’ll actually see someone who is a little bit different, go out of their way to join the sameness crowd. They get drunk to the gills, make fools of themselves, go on stage with imagination only covering the sacred bits, start dancing like chimps in heat, simulate sex acts, make the headlines and voila, look how much of an individual I am. Please.

What we are talking about here s personality, not individuality. Personality is a joke. A waste of space. Personality is given you by society, friends, the crowd you mix with. Ever hear of peer pressure?

True individuality comes when you shed personality and embrace Spirit. Your Spirit.

When in Spirit you do what you need to do, not what someone says you should be doing. There is no falseness about you and you  look and wear whatever you feel like; you have no one to impress. When in Spirit there is no one like you. Anywhere. Ever.

Again, as an example, look at celebrities. The very rare ones who actually are expressing their true Self. Adel comes to mind. She doesn’t need to twirk, get naked in public, or take selfies of her butt. She just sings. She’s a star because she is a star.

Individuality in Spirit gives you peace, lack of worry about anything or anyone because in Spirit you are being you. It gives you mastery. The other makes you a slave to others and society at large.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #119

The Thought I Woke Up With #118

Light Comedy or a Life Lesson?

There is a movie called Groundhog Day. It is meant to be a light comedy, and taken in that vein, it is very good. This movie is however much, much more; a life lesson in fact.

The movie is about a television weatherman, Phil Connors, played by Bill Murray, who becomes stuck reliving the same day over and over, until he gets it right.

Part of getting it right is that Phil learns that he is basically an insufferable jackass, who has no respect for his job, his viewers, the human race or himself. He learns that no matter what he tries, says, does or wishes- including trying to kill himself- gets him out of the repetition.

So Phil starts doing things, learning new things and becoming a better man. He begins to care about others, learns new skills and in the process not only changes but discovers love. It is only then that Phil is released from his day, and returns to his life. He has become a better man, not a different man, but a better one. That in itself is not at all unlike enlightenment.

As the old saying goes; Before enlightenment chop wood carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.

The reason I’m telling you about the movie is because it is a beautifully graphic reflection of life. Life repeats, and repeats, and repeats, until internal changes are made.

The past is the future. The future is the past. All the same, it does not change … until … You Change!

It has been said that life is a mindless, repetitious, senseless, crazy wheel, irrationally and pointlessly repeating itself. And when one starts to watch attentively, one quickly realizes that that is indeed the case, until …

… until like Phil in the movie, one starts making changes within oneself. Then, almost literally a magical transformation occurs. Except that it isn’t magic.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #118

The Thought I Woke Up With #117

Beyond Happiness

It seems we’re not finished with the happiness subject just yet. Yesterday I wrote: Put bluntly, egos version of happiness is not only a crock; it’s a dangerous crock because it uses deceits, twisted tenets and golden calves as laudable goals of worth and virtue.

To know happiness in ego, you must experience unhappiness. That’s just one of the nonsensical ego conditions. Happiness is therefore a worthless concept because it depends on an opposite. No different from life and death. In ego there is always duality; Good – bad. Sick – healthy. Evil – divine. Rich – poor. Beautiful – ugly, and so on and so forth.

Chasing happiness is therefore akin to chasing counterfeit money– worthless.

The endeavor should therefore be aimed at harmony and bliss. Harmony and bliss are beyond ego duality. Beyond happiness and unhappiness. When in the harmony and bliss space, one observes the goings on dispassionately. So when happiness comes one remains detached in the same manner as when unhappiness is passing through. It becomes a case of; Oh look, happy, or, oh look, unhappy. Neither emotion has control.

Meditation is a great vehicle for learning to become a watcher. Becoming a watcher means rising above the ego shenanigans and seeing them for what they are; tomfoolery produced by your own mind and serving only one purpose, diversion from Reality.

That’s it. That’s all that is happening, diversions playing out and keeping you from focusing on the reality of Self.

There is something I call the third energy. You create the third energy when you become an effective watcher. As an effective watcher you see the ego at work; the crazy contrasts. It is then that you become aware of a third element rising from within you. This is the third energy I talk about.

In this third energy is harmony and bliss within which you will find no duality, no contrasts, pressure, stress, anxiety, highs or lows. In this space you will just be. Still, peaceful, calm and undisturbed. Way beyond happiness.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #117

The Thought I Woke Up With #116

The Happy Industry – A Crock

The Happy Industry is a huge business. Millions upon millions of dollars are spent by millions of people who desperately want to be happy and are hoping against hope to purchase the secret from people who have no more of an idea than the buyers.

Then there are those who don’t spend money with the Happy Industry but crave happiness because someone said happiness is what life is all about.

Everyone wants to be happy. A goal supported by the ego system to an absolute hilt. That aught to make you suspicious straight off the bat, ego supported things are always rotten to the core. And so is ego’s version of happiness rotten to the very core.

Put bluntly, egos version of happiness is not only a crock; it’s a dangerous crock because it uses deceits, twisted tenets and golden calves as laudable goals of worth and virtue.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make a difference that you have lived and lived well.”

Any life lived as Mr Emerson describes will be a life well lived. I would add acceptance to that list, by that I mean accepting what life presents.

When I say acceptance I don’t mean blindly accepting everything ego throws up; that will happen as a natural extension of following ego’s plan for success and happiness. When I say acceptance I mean life will present you with events that need to be met head on and dealt with. It is as simple as that.

True and genuine acceptance leads to enlightenment and freedom of the soul.

Ego fights acceptance tooth and nail. Ego isn’t about accepting anything. It is all about its own grandeur, self-importance. It’s about strut and swagger; the look at me, look at me, aren’t I special grandstanding.

It is specialness that drive egos idea of happiness; If it feeds your specialness, it makes you happy. That’s it, right there—ego happiness.

Perhaps that’s why writer Taylor Caldwell wrote, “It is human nature to instinctively rebel at obscurity or ordinariness.”

Strange thing is, once we accept our ordinariness, we discover our greatness.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #116

The Thought I Woke Up With #115

A dose of salts for the ego

I have an opportunity to speak with the elderly on a regular bases. I find it enriching, humorous, and a dose of reality; the reality that flushes through ego like the proverbial dose of salts.

Speaking with the elderly I find enriching because of the vast life experiences they have to share, and experience is a great teacher. If not the greatest in fact. Albert Einstein went as far as to say, The only source of knowledge is experience.

They also have some of the funniest stories to tell, often based on personal life lessons.

The dose of reality part comes in the form of the purity of truth they share. Sometimes there’s a little bitterness attached to the message, other times a measure of sadness and regret but it is always truthful and pure. And pure truth slices through ego like that famed hot knife though butter.

One such recent dose of reality was this: I was, I was, but now I’m not.

This came within the context of a discussion regarding a lady’s past. She was telling me how in the prime of her life she had it all. “And now,” she said, “Look at me, old and useless. I have nothing.” She then looked away sadly and uttered those words, “I was, I was, but now I’m not.”

Within that short sentence rests a great truth. When a life is spent steadfastly and blindly pursuing ego offerings, the outcome is assured. The body withers and finally ceases up, no longer able to pursue, the end comes clearly in sight. Only then does ego reveal its truth; it has all been for nothing. All that’s left to pray for is a swift and painless release from the wretchedness and deep regret.

There is no sin, folks. There is only the tragedy of wasting time on crap that only leads you deeper into the ego muck pile.

You know what diamonds, gold, vast sums of cash and power over your fellows are—Judas Rams. Stop following or there you’ll be dribbling and muttering, I was, I was, but now …

It doesn’t need to be like that. Not at all.

How your life turns out, whether you wish to hear it or not, is determined by the choices you make. Many have come to teach that love is the answer, the cure and the way. And that is true. Love is the answer to the ills of the world. Until Love is accepted as such however, it may as well be acid rain. Nothing can help until the choice to allow it to is made. The Creator himself can but look on until invited to assist. First comes the choice, than follows everything else.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #115

The Thought I Woke Up With #114

Human Relationships 

People keep saying how relationships require constant work and attention. They even use analogies like, ‘a relationship is like a garden, it needs constant watering, weeding and tender loving care.’ Great. What if you don’t like gardening though?

I am saying that tongue in cheek but think about it. A relationship that needs constant vigilance and alertness has got to be chronically defective. Doesn’t it? Doesn’t love come naturally? Or can it be made to order, like a fat juicy burger?

A relationship that needs to be under repair at all times is like a rust-ridden car body; always being patched. I had a car like that in my youth, when I couldn’t afford a sound vehicle. Tell you one thing about that car, I never felt secure and relaxed riding around in it; always worried about bits falling off and things going wrong– which they did, on a regular bases. Had the odd relationship like that too back in the day come to think of it; felt similar. So the analogy is good.

To be constantly working and vigilantly tending to anything is boring, tedious, tiring and unhealthy.

If you’re constantly in the grips of hard labour when it comes to your relationship, when do you actually get to enjoy it?

The time to work on the relationship is before it becomes a relationship. By work I mean being completely honest and natural around your love interest. Just be yourself. Equally encourage and allow them to be likewise. By doing that, you will show them what you are about, and they will show you the same. Then, under those conditions, you will both be in a position to look at the prime reality behind any successful relationship, compatibility.

Compatibility is key. Compatibility is the fuel. Without compatibility your relationship vehicle will stall and more than likely end up on the scrapheap.

Under the compatibility umbrella fall things such as financial goals, sexual pursuits, emotional traits, career and family aspirations, spiritual beliefs, mutual respect and appreciation, amongst other things.

Human relationships will never be perfect. And there will be times when you just do as the spirit moves you, as love moves you. That’s just the way it is.

That said though, spending a bit of time evaluating things up front, may just save you years of heartburns and headaches.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #114

The Thought I Woke Up With #113


Human beings have since the moment of awareness suffered from an acute case of ASH.

You’ve not heard of that most diabolical malady? Don’t feel inadequate if you haven’t, dear reader, neither had I until it popped into mind a moment ago. It stands for Acute Self Hatred.

Human history is littered with mindless acts of destruction both against his fellows and the race as a whole. Regrettably, there are no signs that state of being is about to change any time soon.

Indeed the mad race to self-destruction has, if anything, intensified. For all the technological and allegedly intellectual advancements the human race is head first galloping towards mass obliteration.

The reason this mad suicide gallop isn’t being seriously addressed, yet alone brought to an end, by seemingly intelligent beings no less, is because the core of the cause is deeply hidden, marked, Never To Be Looked At. Instead other means of murder and mayhem are offered as culprits. The reason for this is obvious; if you don’t know the cause you’re not likely to find the cure. That’s just a self evident truth, when you think about it.

You see, as disgusting and blindly stupid as the so-called weapons of mass destruction are, these are not the core problem.

Neither is the core problem the never-ending wars, repeated genocide, or wide-reaching starvation that could be stopped almost immediately.

The core problem, the core reason, the human race has worked tirelessly at killing itself from the moment it came into being is- acute self hatred.

How else can you explain the ongoing poisoning of the air, the water and the soil? What better and more complete way is there to end life on planet earth?

The obvious question is why?

Why would an allegedly intelligent organism even contemplate doing such things to itself?

A catalyst that leads to the answer, is within a statement made by a man some two thousand years ago, when he said- “forgive them father they know not what they do.”

Unfortunately the statement as a whole has been dumped into religious realms thereby creating misunderstandings, and even worse, depriving humans of a cure to its most primal and basic problem.

The Jesus answer has nothing to do with religion perse and everything to do with an accurate assessment of an ill so powerful it has destroyed life and happiness since the beginning.

To persistently develop and refine means by which to kill members of ones own species is although despicable in the extreme, at least to some minute degree understandable. Actively destroying the environment which supports the entire life form is not.

When I say a part of the answer rests within the Jesus statement, I mean to say that we do not need the father’s forgiveness. The father has not condemned us. We need to forgive ourselves. Self forgiveness means self acceptance. Self acceptance means seeing the world, and the Self, with a brand new set of eyes.

We need to look at the- they know not what they do- part of the statement.That means genuinely and honestly asking:

Why am I doing this? Why am I living like this? Why am I accepting things that make no sense whatsoever, things that do not make me happy?

We need to embrace a mantra of a different kind, a mantra that says, simply, Everything that happens in this life should have one purpose only, to make me happy.

If it doesn’t make you happy, it shouldn’t be.

And ASH should be one of the first to go!

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #113