I’ll be there. On the dot!
I used to pride myself on being on time. When I say I’ll be on time, it means I will be on time, you can take that to the bank. This mornings waking thought reminded me of the way this used to be. In fact, to be fully truthful, I was a little fanatical about time keeping.
Now days, I still like to be on time. Indeed I think it’s more than a bit rude to say you’re going to be someplace at 4PM and turn up at 6PM. Such a person wouldn’t be associating with me for very long. Life’s too short. (Emergencies excluded of course).
That said however, I’m now fully aware that guaranteeing arrival times and being fanatical about keeping them is not only unhealthy, it is untruthful, if not ignorant.
When I started walking the Enlightenment Path, as I call it, I remember thinking, “Right, twelve months of full-on effort, every day, and this’ll be done.”
Well, 30 odd years later and I’m still at it. Slow learner? Probably. I’ve wondered off the path a few times, got lost in the woods and had to fight off monsters.
The reality is that I was totally ignorant as to what the path to self realization, to peace of mind was all about. One quickly learns that Rumi was right on point when he said,“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” Right on my brother, right on.
When we rigidly plan things, like on the dot arrival and departure times, we are oftentimes setting ourselves up to fail. There are too many variables in it.
Yes, unless one has evolved into that particular space where time no longer applies, planning arrival and departure times, keeping to schedules and all that is necessary. Can you just imagine booking a plane ticket and your departure time being given as: Sometime Tomorrow?
Or, a doctor saying, C’mon in, open all day! That’s probably not a good example, however, doctors do that anyhow. Sometimes I wonder what the point of making an appointment is. You end up waiting an eternity at any rate. Perhaps I’m being unfair on doctors in other countries but that’s the way they roll in Australia.
Truth of the matter is we have no real control over time and circumstance, and for those who may be stressing over timekeeping, by all means keep your commitments whenever possible, it’s only good manners and respect, however, don’t stress when stuff happens. It’s not your fault.
An easy technique to adopt, whenever possible, is to give yourself leeway; say half an hour; I’ll be there between 4 and 4:30. You may be pleasantly surprised how many people accept this.
Finally, there are the folks who are forever running late. You can give them 2 hours leeway and they’d still be dreadfully late. Here’s what I do with such people. I give them 30 minutes, doing whatever else I got to do, then, I just walk away. These people are drama queens. There’s always drama in their day, in their lives. Which is cool. No judgments. But I refuse to play.