Be careful what you wish for
Everyone wishes for something. No matter where they are, no matter what they do, no matter the socioeconomic status.
Before I go a word further I want to clarify that there are wishes and there are wishes.
A mother, way beyond tears and clutching a starving baby, wishing for a piece of bread and a drink of clean water isn’t quite the same thing as a mother wishing her husband would get that promotion already, so she can’t buy the latest Nike bib-n-brace for her toddler.
Neither is a doped up, social security sucking dude’s wish for world piece equal to a similar wish made by a person who saw their family mascaraed.
Nor am I referring to common wishes, let’s call them, like, almost everyone, deep down, wishing there’s a heaven or some equally pleasant place. Or at the very least that there isn’t anything resembling hell. Even the staunchest atheist will say that there is nothing, after one departs this mortal coil; after death there’s no heaven; but there most certainly is no hell either, they proclaim. Everyone likes to hedge that final bet.
What I am speaking of here are those wishes people have that are in reality a double-edged sword, the ones that can turn into a nightmare if and when realised. Or at least take on an entirely different appearance.
Truth be known the majority of wishes people have rotate around the same thing(s). Things like: money, love, self-change, fame, sex, peace, freedom, happiness.
So in theory, if everyone were to be given a busload of money, find a love of their life, change themselves into a demi-god, be famous, have sex like the Bonobos, be left in peace, be free to behave as they wish, and be happy, we’d have a perfect planet, right?
Just putting those “ideal wishes” together allows you to see the unreasonableness of them. Misses the entire point of life and reality also. But as they say, don’t let the truth stand in the way of a good illusion.
What wishes do is blur the lines between the real and the unreal, the now and the never-never.
In the now we experience Reality, and will by extension, take up those things, which will lead us to the reunion with Reality, permanently.
Money, sex, fame, loving a body, are things that are not only detrimental to our reunification with Reality, they lead away from it.
An Aussie nurse, Bonnie Ware, worked as a palliative care nurse and decided to record her patients dying realizations, which she released on her blog, Inspiration of Chai and the book, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.”
Bonnie found five areas of regret that surfaced again and again. Money, sex and fame didn’t rate a mention. But I suppose we knew they wouldn’t.
These are the five regrets that kept repeating:
- The most common regret was, I wish I’d had the courage to live my own life. Not the life others expected me to live.
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself to be happier.
Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.