HOW TO FIND LOVE AND HAPPINESS

Have you ever felt flatter than a rabbit run over by a 24-wheeler, for no apparent reason?

It’d be fair to say just about every human has had his and her fair share of those. Anyone who says they’ve never experienced those days is shall we say, telling little fibbies or has short-term memory issues that may need immediate looking into.

I am talking about the down-days when you feel like crap and no amount of happy-snappy-peppy-self-talk, pleading with the universe; reaffirming or positive mental flag-waving makes any difference. Days when that something has a hold of you tighter than a pit-bull locked onto a juicy bone. At least with a pit-bull you can use a nifty little technique where you stick a finger up its butt the surprise of which makes it unclench. Please note I have not personally tried this technique and am in no way endorsing or encouraging it. With a bummer day, no pun intended, there is no such nifty little trick. As much as you’d at times love to ram the finger up life.

Yet the popcorn philosophy peddlers smile their contrived smiles and dismissively tell you that everything is fixable. Just be positive. Buy the latest book, get the CD, go to a seminar, and all will be fixed.

If only it were that simple. If it were that shallow and facile everyone would be living the life of Riley wouldn’t they. It would only take one book and hey presto. But, it never was nor will it ever be that simple.

No amount of reading, praying, positive thinking, jumping up and down in front of a mirror, reaffirming the law of attraction or being a Mr or Ms Nice Person will do it.

How do I know? Because apart from years of working with, and being around, people who have spent large amounts of their hard earned on such populist quick fix rubbish, I’ve done it too. Back in the day I used to buy every new book and cassette tape/CD program that I came across and you know what I got? I got Worse.

Why worse? Because there came a point I started to believe there was something seriously wrong with me. These self-help guru types made it sound so easy. So why wasn’t I getting it?

I’ve stared into the mirror till my eyes teared up and repeated affirmations until they haunted me in my sleep. No pasó nada.

Tried role modeling different people; emulating their walk, talk, attire and so forth. I think I would have aped their bowel movements had I been able to get close enough to witness those particular private moments; and of course the stalking laws are always at the back of ones mind.

I’ve paid good money to attend seminars, the presenters of which were nothing more than pumped up energizer bunnies popping wisdoms like popcorn … butter oozing and everything.

I’ve tried creative visualization, the law of attraction, goal setting, not caring and more. No deal.

I’ve travelled from Australia to the US to listen to a guy who sat in a chair and announced he had a direct line to God.

Dude said that God would, through him, provide us peons with all the answers. Well, God must have been tending to the apple tree that day because all we got was some mumbo jumbo about everything being just as it should be. Thanks scoop.

A friend took me to a spiritualist church where a woman would get up and read the leaves that you brought in with you. There was a small tree outside this building they called a church and most attendees, including me, ripped off a few leaves on the way in for this oracle to read. That poor tree.

The only thing the majority of this self-help caper does is make a handful of people rich. It’s a huge business.

In a Forbes article, titled, “What People Are Still Willing To Pay For,” written by a Melanie Linder, it is stated that: Americans spent $11 billion in 2008 on self-improvement books, CDs, seminars, coaching and stress-management programs–13.6% more than they did back in 2005, according to Marketdata Enterprises, an independent Tampa-based research firm that tracks everything from adoption agencies to funeral homes. Latest forecast: 6.2% annual growth through 2012.

In the same article, Steve Salerno, author of Sham: “How the Self-Help Movement Made America Helpless,” is quoted as follows: Whatever they think you’re deficient in, they’re selling the solution. This industry is exploitive, he says. It takes advantage of people’s weaknesses.

What these people are really selling is hope. It is false hope however because it is hope based on reinforcing ego grandiosity and a belief that no real effort is required.

The key issue is the peddlers of false hope never even attempt to approach the core issue- ego.

That is because they are so genuinely deluded themselves they lead their fellow humans deeper into ego with them. These people are at the very best performers and at worst Judas-goats.

Unfortunately a huge number of folks latch onto this seemingly effort free option of just reading, listening, praying and talking about success and spiritual attainment. It should be said that if doing those things brings them some comfort and respite so be it. As long as they don’t expect serious and real changes to occur. As long as they realize that all that happens is the ego gets refreshed until a more up to date book, CD or sermon arrives.

To those wanting genuine change and betterment and where every dollar spent counts I say: be careful. Be careful to whom, and to what, you are listening. Majority of the material out there is, in my experience, about as useful as a skunk at a romantic dinner.

Genuine transformation requires genuine commitment and serious work. By serious work I don’t mean one becomes grim and humorless, or ridiculously intense, but sincere determination is a must. You cannot skip and giggle your way into joy, happiness and enlightenment.

There is a great deal more to joy and happiness than making believe everything is just wonderful, jumping up and down in front of a mirror, reciting affirmations and attracting abundance while going around doing the same things done yesterday.

No matter how often or with how much vigor you try and affirm a delusion, it can never be the truth. Trying to turn a delusion into truth is akin to trying to turn raw sewage into pristine drinking water.

You see there is only one-way to peace, love and happiness; Your Way. And Your Way is found by living Your Life.

I realize that may sound a little strange to many however; it’s an undeniable fact.

When Christians, or anyone else for that matter, say Jesus died for your sins, that’s pure ego-talk.

That there is no sin, only errors, is another discussion, but neither Jesus nor anyone you care to name, can undo anyone else’s errors, simply because no one, and no thing, can live anyone else’s life.

Everyone must do their own living and their own undoing.

Finding and living ones own life means embracing the life path that contains situations and scenarios specific to each individual and resolving the issues within those situations and scenarios which are, as stated, individual-specific, and exclusively personal.

No one sees or feels the same about a situation or incident as you do. And there is a very good reason for that. The incidents and situations you are seeing and experiencing you created.

Like Jesus, like Buddha, like Lao Tzu and every other great one, you and I have our very own challenges and blocks to undo. No one, and no thing, can undo them for us simply because we were the ones who put them there.

You want love, peace, happiness and plenty? Find your own life and live that.

Do not for a moment think that you cannot do it. You are as great and as holy as Jesus, Buddha, Lao Tzu or any master you care to name.

Takeaway Point: If you want true Love and genuine Happiness accept they are already part of you. Then, do what is required to remove the blocks preventing you from experiencing those things.

See you on the bright side.

Nick Z Moran

HOW TO FIND LOVE AND HAPPINESS

SHAKESPEARE THE SPIRITUALIST

 Pre-eminent writer, poet and dramatist William Shakespeare was also highly spiritually insightful. When in his play Macbeth he wrote the line- Double, double toil and trouble; fire burn, and caldron bubble- not only did he pen one of the most popular lines in English literature, he also described life in the ego and its habitat; planet Earth.

Planet Earth is very much like that charmed pot, around which the Macbeth witches dance and chant whilst it boils and churns its contents of eye of newt, toe of frog, owlet’s wing, blind-worms sting, poisoned entrails, fillet of fenny snake, a slice of swamp snake, forked tongue of an adder, together with other bits the witches hacked and tore off the luckless fauna that strayed onto their path. Have you noticed how snakes cop it sideways when anything dark, evil, treacherous or unpleasant is being portrayed? Poor things are still paying penance for the wrath incurred by their Garden of Eden ancestor who sweet-talked Eve into sneaking behind her dads back and chowing down on the apple. And look how that worked out, not just for the snake population but humanity. Eve’s pappy don’t forgive, or forget.

Back to the ego environment however, the place where ego rules and human beings do to each other things worse than the witches did to the frog, newt, owlet, snake and whatever else ended up in the pot.

The witches justify the slaughter and disembowelment of innocent wildlife by proclaiming it to be for a greater good, i.e. the potions help someone. Humans justify equally brain-dead politics and religious beliefs as being committed for the greater good of humanity. I wonder what the beheaded, disembowelled, burned, stoned and crucified would say about such loving and peaceful intentions.

And all the while ego skips and giggles, hands out medals, sings song, fires weapons into the air, brings out the marching bands, delivers sermons and hands out party pies and canapés.

How good’s this! Rejoices the ego. Sodom and Gomorrah are expending. Gods are great! My god’s anyway. Yours suck!

It needs to be seen and understood, clearly and unequivocally; ego does not only condone killing and barbarity it creates it. Murder, mayhem and duplicity are the fuel that keeps the ego fires burning.

Ego’s duplicity knows no bounds. It’s okay to kill masses but god forbid two people who love each other should want to get married, if they happen to be of the same sex. Oh dear, we can’t have any of that around here by god. That just ain’t right!

That’s all well and good, you may be thinking, but what can I do? These things have nothing to do with me. I’m just an average person, living my life as best as I can.

The answer to that is, everything and everyone is connected. You are ego’s child whenever you function within, or witness anything relating to, this world. And when I say you, I’m referring to all of us. Some to a lesser degree, some to a greater degree but as long as we are on the planet we’re ego’s children at least some of the time. That only stops being the case once we reunite with Creation permanently. Until then, there’s work to do.

Generally speaking human lives are filled with arguments, pain, disappointments and in far too many instances much worse.

There isn’t a human alive, no matter their social status, rank and level of eminence that has not had days when they have felt like that archetypal ventriloquists dummy; a marionette being manipulated this way and that by something unseen and unreachable? And how does ego explain such states of existence? It glosses over it with quirky little wisdoms like, suck it up, that’s just part of being alive?

So why doesn’t ego come clean as to why all the so-called bad stuff and crappy feelings happen? Because to do so is to admit there is such a thing as an alternative life, let’s call it.

The ego life force is a miserable thing. Its fruits are every war, every murder, every disease, every disaster, every treachery, every plague and pandemic ever witnessed.

Happiness cannot be found in ego. Nothing in ego is good. The best one gets in ego is a moment or two of respite. Look at your typical ego life; birth, painful. Growing up, controlled. Education, regimented. Work, stressful. Retirement, empty. Death, final.

It is important to see the ego as it is. It isn’t beautiful, subtle or manageable. And it most certainly isn’t benign.

That earthly life problems and the human condition overall cannot be solved by way of earthly means should be clear and obvious.

What should also be as obvious as a wart on a witches nose is that no one can save anyone else. Jesus couldn’t do it. Buddha couldn’t do it. Lao Tzu couldn’t, nor could anyone else you care to name.

Every single person has to earn his and her own ticked out of this place. If any of the great masters could have done it they would have. What the masters did do however is offer a variety of ways. Jesus for example, went as far as to show that ego can be overcome, in a most graphic way possible. He didn’t die for anyone’s sins. How could he have died for anyone’s sins when he went out of his way to show there is no death?

Focusing on the resurrection and sinlessness doesn’t suit the ego worshipers nor does it keep the gold rolling in. Sin, suffering and fear work much better for wealth creation and keeping the faithful in line.

Buddha never said he was a saviour, nor did any genuine master. That’s because genuine masters know better and don’t lie.

True masters never place themselves above the rest of us. There’s a good reason for that. They aren’t different to the rest of us. Their work is the only thing that’s different. Not better. Not more noble. Just different. These men and women are the Coyotaje, but instead of smuggling illegals across the border they help souls cross out of ego and back into their rightful homeland, Creation.

Unfortunately the vast majority of humans find the fact that personal effort is required in order to become free of ego unpalatable. It is much easier to wait for a master to come and sort them out, to wave the hand and carry them off to the Garden of Hesperides or some other such idyllic world of nymphs and shepherds where goats cheese tartlets, zucchini fritters and organic cheeky reds are plentiful and free.

So what is to be done? How can this world be fixed? When will god take pity and send in the angelic cavalry?

Answering those questions is easy. Nothing. It can’t. Never.

Nothing is to be done. Trying to do something about the ego environment is like trying to make a healthy meal out of the ingredients in the Macbeth witches cauldron.

This world can’t be fixed. How do you make the unreal real?

God will never send in the cavalry of any sort. Nor will a saviour come to singlehandedly save the world.

Look at it this way. Let’s say you’re watching a child sleeping. And the child starts tossing and turning and mumbling. You realise the child is dreaming. What do you do? Send in an army to slay the enemy the child is battling? Go in and rescue the child from whatever it is they are dreaming up? Fix the dream to a more pleasant one? Take food and water into the dream?

So it is with ego and ego life. The Creator will not interfere with one of its sleeping Creations.

The Creator has, however put in place ways, means and tools for each to wake. That part is assured. No one will be left behind.

To start ones own waking process the first step is to decide to, at the very least, canvas the possibilities. It is a choice. Everyone needs to make their own choices.

You may not believe there is anything out there but the ego. And that’s fine. Reality doesn’t depend on anyone. It is simply there as it has always been. Quietly, gently, waiting.

Next, focus on the Present moment. Some refer to it as being in the now. Or being in the breath. No matter what the label the substance is the same.

The first thing you will note when in the Present is there is no past or future. Those concepts are of the ego. When you are in the Present therefore there is no ego, you are experiencing the Self.

Being in the Present will bring happiness and joy, the likes of which cannot be imagined. Ego cannot imagine it because it has nothing to compare it with.

In the Present you will also find your life. The life you must live in order to reconnect with the Self and consequently Creation, permanently.

Make love not war,

Nick Z Moran

SHAKESPEARE THE SPIRITUALIST