The Thought I Woke Up With #116

The Happy Industry – A Crock

The Happy Industry is a huge business. Millions upon millions of dollars are spent by millions of people who desperately want to be happy and are hoping against hope to purchase the secret from people who have no more of an idea than the buyers.

Then there are those who don’t spend money with the Happy Industry but crave happiness because someone said happiness is what life is all about.

Everyone wants to be happy. A goal supported by the ego system to an absolute hilt. That aught to make you suspicious straight off the bat, ego supported things are always rotten to the core. And so is ego’s version of happiness rotten to the very core.

Put bluntly, egos version of happiness is not only a crock; it’s a dangerous crock because it uses deceits, twisted tenets and golden calves as laudable goals of worth and virtue.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make a difference that you have lived and lived well.”

Any life lived as Mr Emerson describes will be a life well lived. I would add acceptance to that list, by that I mean accepting what life presents.

When I say acceptance I don’t mean blindly accepting everything ego throws up; that will happen as a natural extension of following ego’s plan for success and happiness. When I say acceptance I mean life will present you with events that need to be met head on and dealt with. It is as simple as that.

True and genuine acceptance leads to enlightenment and freedom of the soul.

Ego fights acceptance tooth and nail. Ego isn’t about accepting anything. It is all about its own grandeur, self-importance. It’s about strut and swagger; the look at me, look at me, aren’t I special grandstanding.

It is specialness that drive egos idea of happiness; If it feeds your specialness, it makes you happy. That’s it, right there—ego happiness.

Perhaps that’s why writer Taylor Caldwell wrote, “It is human nature to instinctively rebel at obscurity or ordinariness.”

Strange thing is, once we accept our ordinariness, we discover our greatness.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #116

The Thought I Woke Up With #115

A dose of salts for the ego

I have an opportunity to speak with the elderly on a regular bases. I find it enriching, humorous, and a dose of reality; the reality that flushes through ego like the proverbial dose of salts.

Speaking with the elderly I find enriching because of the vast life experiences they have to share, and experience is a great teacher. If not the greatest in fact. Albert Einstein went as far as to say, The only source of knowledge is experience.

They also have some of the funniest stories to tell, often based on personal life lessons.

The dose of reality part comes in the form of the purity of truth they share. Sometimes there’s a little bitterness attached to the message, other times a measure of sadness and regret but it is always truthful and pure. And pure truth slices through ego like that famed hot knife though butter.

One such recent dose of reality was this: I was, I was, but now I’m not.

This came within the context of a discussion regarding a lady’s past. She was telling me how in the prime of her life she had it all. “And now,” she said, “Look at me, old and useless. I have nothing.” She then looked away sadly and uttered those words, “I was, I was, but now I’m not.”

Within that short sentence rests a great truth. When a life is spent steadfastly and blindly pursuing ego offerings, the outcome is assured. The body withers and finally ceases up, no longer able to pursue, the end comes clearly in sight. Only then does ego reveal its truth; it has all been for nothing. All that’s left to pray for is a swift and painless release from the wretchedness and deep regret.

There is no sin, folks. There is only the tragedy of wasting time on crap that only leads you deeper into the ego muck pile.

You know what diamonds, gold, vast sums of cash and power over your fellows are—Judas Rams. Stop following or there you’ll be dribbling and muttering, I was, I was, but now …

It doesn’t need to be like that. Not at all.

How your life turns out, whether you wish to hear it or not, is determined by the choices you make. Many have come to teach that love is the answer, the cure and the way. And that is true. Love is the answer to the ills of the world. Until Love is accepted as such however, it may as well be acid rain. Nothing can help until the choice to allow it to is made. The Creator himself can but look on until invited to assist. First comes the choice, than follows everything else.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #115

The Thought I Woke Up With #114

Human Relationships 

People keep saying how relationships require constant work and attention. They even use analogies like, ‘a relationship is like a garden, it needs constant watering, weeding and tender loving care.’ Great. What if you don’t like gardening though?

I am saying that tongue in cheek but think about it. A relationship that needs constant vigilance and alertness has got to be chronically defective. Doesn’t it? Doesn’t love come naturally? Or can it be made to order, like a fat juicy burger?

A relationship that needs to be under repair at all times is like a rust-ridden car body; always being patched. I had a car like that in my youth, when I couldn’t afford a sound vehicle. Tell you one thing about that car, I never felt secure and relaxed riding around in it; always worried about bits falling off and things going wrong– which they did, on a regular bases. Had the odd relationship like that too back in the day come to think of it; felt similar. So the analogy is good.

To be constantly working and vigilantly tending to anything is boring, tedious, tiring and unhealthy.

If you’re constantly in the grips of hard labour when it comes to your relationship, when do you actually get to enjoy it?

The time to work on the relationship is before it becomes a relationship. By work I mean being completely honest and natural around your love interest. Just be yourself. Equally encourage and allow them to be likewise. By doing that, you will show them what you are about, and they will show you the same. Then, under those conditions, you will both be in a position to look at the prime reality behind any successful relationship, compatibility.

Compatibility is key. Compatibility is the fuel. Without compatibility your relationship vehicle will stall and more than likely end up on the scrapheap.

Under the compatibility umbrella fall things such as financial goals, sexual pursuits, emotional traits, career and family aspirations, spiritual beliefs, mutual respect and appreciation, amongst other things.

Human relationships will never be perfect. And there will be times when you just do as the spirit moves you, as love moves you. That’s just the way it is.

That said though, spending a bit of time evaluating things up front, may just save you years of heartburns and headaches.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #114

The Thought I Woke Up With #113


Human beings have since the moment of awareness suffered from an acute case of ASH.

You’ve not heard of that most diabolical malady? Don’t feel inadequate if you haven’t, dear reader, neither had I until it popped into mind a moment ago. It stands for Acute Self Hatred.

Human history is littered with mindless acts of destruction both against his fellows and the race as a whole. Regrettably, there are no signs that state of being is about to change any time soon.

Indeed the mad race to self-destruction has, if anything, intensified. For all the technological and allegedly intellectual advancements the human race is head first galloping towards mass obliteration.

The reason this mad suicide gallop isn’t being seriously addressed, yet alone brought to an end, by seemingly intelligent beings no less, is because the core of the cause is deeply hidden, marked, Never To Be Looked At. Instead other means of murder and mayhem are offered as culprits. The reason for this is obvious; if you don’t know the cause you’re not likely to find the cure. That’s just a self evident truth, when you think about it.

You see, as disgusting and blindly stupid as the so-called weapons of mass destruction are, these are not the core problem.

Neither is the core problem the never-ending wars, repeated genocide, or wide-reaching starvation that could be stopped almost immediately.

The core problem, the core reason, the human race has worked tirelessly at killing itself from the moment it came into being is- acute self hatred.

How else can you explain the ongoing poisoning of the air, the water and the soil? What better and more complete way is there to end life on planet earth?

The obvious question is why?

Why would an allegedly intelligent organism even contemplate doing such things to itself?

A catalyst that leads to the answer, is within a statement made by a man some two thousand years ago, when he said- “forgive them father they know not what they do.”

Unfortunately the statement as a whole has been dumped into religious realms thereby creating misunderstandings, and even worse, depriving humans of a cure to its most primal and basic problem.

The Jesus answer has nothing to do with religion perse and everything to do with an accurate assessment of an ill so powerful it has destroyed life and happiness since the beginning.

To persistently develop and refine means by which to kill members of ones own species is although despicable in the extreme, at least to some minute degree understandable. Actively destroying the environment which supports the entire life form is not.

When I say a part of the answer rests within the Jesus statement, I mean to say that we do not need the father’s forgiveness. The father has not condemned us. We need to forgive ourselves. Self forgiveness means self acceptance. Self acceptance means seeing the world, and the Self, with a brand new set of eyes.

We need to look at the- they know not what they do- part of the statement.That means genuinely and honestly asking:

Why am I doing this? Why am I living like this? Why am I accepting things that make no sense whatsoever, things that do not make me happy?

We need to embrace a mantra of a different kind, a mantra that says, simply, Everything that happens in this life should have one purpose only, to make me happy.

If it doesn’t make you happy, it shouldn’t be.

And ASH should be one of the first to go!

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #113

The Thought I Woke Up With #112


More than once I have said that we don’t communicate with words; that words are meaningless and at best nebulous and ambiguous.

As I believe those comments to be true and accurate I stand by them.

Where does that leave quotes like this then: The words you speak become the house you live in. by the Persian poet, Hafez, who is not known for making frivolous statements.

Well, I agree with Hafez. The man spoke the truth.

Here is what I mean.

Words are ego’s way of communicating. And since ego is but a made-up idea, an illusion, its system of communication cannot be anything but, also.

Nothing real happens in a dream, including words.

Things go deeper than that with ego communication. Words are in fact designed to muddy communication. Most words have many meanings for instance. That in itself doesn’t make for clarity and ease of communication.

If ever you want to see the ambiguity of words, read something legal. Lawyers specialize in gobbledygook. They are however just a prime example, not the exception.

Ego survives on confusion and subterfuge. When the light of truth shines upon ego, it is seen that words are but a layer of pretention laid on by those fantasizing about an illusory world being real.

True communication happens behind the scenes, below the surface of words if you will.

Words do not convey meaning. Meaning is conveyed by the mood, the state, you are in when speaking them.

You’ve noticed it yourself I’m sure, when you’re laughing and having a happy conversation you can say things that under different circumstances would be taken entirely differently.

When you are angry, you can say a single word or two, Everything’s fine, for instance, and the listener just knows that everything is far from fine.

To that end when Hafez says, The words you speak become the house you live in, he means that the state you are in will dictate your words. If you are at peace your words will be soft, kind and peaceful.

Alternatively if you are in ego, your words will reflect that. As such, watching your words serves as witness to the type of mental house you live in; as well as your physical one for that matter. A peaceful and happy person will not be living in a household filled with tension, anxiety and stress. A successful person will not be saying negative things, and so forth.

The great Rumi puts it superbly when he says:

“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.” 

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #112

The Thought I Woke Up With #111


People get angry. It happens to everyone. It is common and there is no shame in it. Anger, like sorrow, love, happiness, pride, humbleness and so on is part of life.

Anger is a common human energy. Also common are the varying degrees of anger, which range from mild to white hot, as well as that most of the time a person knows the reasons for becoming angry, even those for whom anger is the go-to reaction for emotional bullying know.

Not so common are those times when one wakes up angry. There appears to be no reason for it. You were sleeping, resting, and on waking you feel angry and irate.

The first thing to do is to understand anger and its purpose in ego. Anger is energy. Your energy. Just like love, humility and modesty amongst others it emanates from you.

The purpose of anger is that it energizes the ego. By that I mean, have you noticed how excited and tremendously emboldened you are when angry?

All sense, reason and feeling are obliterated when anger kicks in. Even fear, ego’s number one power-tool, steps back.

Anger for ego is a win-win-win. Whilst angry you feel invincible. When the outburst is over you either feel embarrassed and contrite because you were foolish and wrong, or, validated because the cause of the outburst was right and true.

To ego the cause and outcome are of no consequence. What is important to ego is the act of anger itself. When you are angry you are firmly in ego. And for ego that’s as good as it gets.

The cure for anger is not to fight it. Even those for whom anger is the go-to reaction, or a proven tool for bullying, fighting the energy is not the answer. Fighting the energy is a means of further enlivening it, energising it and an absolute exercise in futility. It is futile because when you fight it, you are literally fighting yourself. That’d be like jelly wrestling yourself … and the winner is …

To cure anger one needs to do exactly the opposite to fighting it. One needs to embrace it.

Another false cure many go for when trying to control anger is suppression. Think about something else and it’s go away. Prey. Chant. Do your mantra.

Suppression chases it away. Suppressing things is like playing hide and seek with your self. You suppress a thing; the thing hides and waits for an opportune time to resurface. That is the reason things that haunt a person throughout life keep recurring, keep haunting, so to say.

Anger must be embraced. Looked at. Studied. Understood. Do NOT fight your energies, get to know and understand your energies. A stranger is only mysterious until you get to know them.

Your anger is only anger until you get to understand it and its causes. Then, when you know, you can respond correctly and then, no more anger.

Knowing is power. Back in the day, some societies viewed the solar eclipse as a demon swallowing the moon. It was collapse to the knees and prey for the best time.

As far as waking up with anger is concerned, the reason is simple. Mind never sleeps. Mind is working 24/7.

If you were able to record the thoughts going through mind whilst you were sleeping the reason for waking up angry would be blatantly obvious.

The way to address and rectify waking up angry is therefore the same as dealing with any anger. Get into the feeling. Dive into the energy and the understanding will soon enough present.

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #111

The Thought I Woke Up With #110

Turn the other cheek

It’s easy to get confused. One “expert” says this, and before you know it, another “expert” on the same topic pops up and says something different.

Even the bible contradicts itself. In one spot it says, But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.

At another point it states, Thus you shall not show pity: life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise.…

Life is full of contradictions. Do this, don’t do that. Wear this but don’t wear that. Be a peacenik and you’ll succeed, love everybody and you shall be free, eating meat is terrible and wrong. Eat more beef, it’s good for you, and so on and so forth.

Let me make it clear from the outset, I am not what you call a “peacenik.” I am a Spiritualist, but not a peacenik. I will quite readily stand up for my beliefs.

You see there is a way out of the confusion—Be Yourself.

Every One of us is a Self-Developer. Which in turn means that every human being has an explicit and God-given right to express themselves and by so doing moves further out of the confusion and closer to total self-realization.

The self-expression to which I refer needs to be encouraged, no matter what it may entail. The single and only proviso being that it must in no way violate or infringe upon, another persons right to the same thing.

A great many people have a mistaken belief that anyone talking about the Creator, the Self, the Spirit, Love, peace and such must be some kind of a forever smiling, all-absorbing, infinitely patient, turn-the-other-cheek at all times, saint on earth.

Not so. Different personalities, life experiences, cultures, religions, customs, levels of understanding and manner of communication determine the types of delivery.

A hard-core biker, for example, will not respond to the same stimuli, as does a gentle, softly spoken artist.

Nor will a woman with a deep desire to be in a submissive relationship respond similarly to a strident feminist.

Everyone must be allowed to be themselves, and to express themselves, in their own way.

The first and most fundamental key to self-development and personal success of any kind is to understand and unconditionally accept everyone’s right to be themselves.

The second fundamental step is to forget about everyone else and focus on you.

An interesting thing happens when you focus solely on yourself. You come to understand that there is no such thing as alone and separate.

As A Course In Miracles says:

“Sit quietly and look upon the world you see, and tell yourself: “The real world is not like this. It has no buildings and there are no streets where people walk alone and separate. There are no stores where people buy an endless list of things they do not need. It is not lit with artificial light, and night comes not upon it. There is no day that brightens and grows dim. There is no loss. Nothing is there but shines, and shines forever.”

Until tomorrow,


The Thought I Woke Up With #110